Botox, Stiff Upper Lips and Other Things

“People who keep stiff upper lips find that it’s damn hard to smile.” So said Judith Guest, an American novelist and screenwriter, who, is most famous for writing Ordinary People. (    

Botox and stiff upper lipped denial both make it hard to smile. They are artificial methods of avoiding reality.

As to Botox, I did get a break on wrinkles. In the claims business, I occasionally saw plastic surgeons with claims against them. One of them was walking down the street with me, I believe after we had lunched together. He said, essentially, I was cut a real break on avoiding wrinkles, in that, I had cheeks as fat and round as a 1 month old.

I clearly lacked the strong, square jaw my adult son inherited through his maternal side, but at least as my brain deteriorated along with my joints, something stayed young. I still remember hugging my big cheeked mom as her soft cheeks touched mine, at, 90 years of age. Good Lord, I miss her.

Now, my upper lip quivers, as opposed to stiffening and that’s on a good day.

H. Robert Rubin, best-selling, Amazon memoirist and author of Look Backward Angel, How Did I Get Through This? and Please Save the Third Dance for Me, all available on Amazon.