“If you allow yourself to be the person you are then everything will come into rhythm.” John O’ Donohue, the late poet, priest philosopher.
So many things stand in the way of being who you are. When you “become” an adult in the U.S. at 18, often, you need to decide what you will be when you grow up. Not who you will be, but what you will be. How many 18 years olds can assess that wisely?
From O Donahue’s point of view, that will amount to a lot of disgruntled people in the workforce. There are lots of unhappy physicians, attorneys, engineers, etc. who are out of rhythm.
Also, while you are in your twenties and early thirties, you often choose that person with whom you would like to spend the rest of your life. Are those young people astute enough to allow themselves to be the person they are when they date their future spouse? Not in the games most people play from my point of view. Those numbers for young marriages don’t look promising either.
So you make these tough decisions often with the least wisdom. As a result, lots of people have a second career and/or a second spouse. How discouraging. May the good Lord guide and bless your choices if you are now blessed with youth itself.