“The Color of Water”by Richard McBride, a Review, and, Third Look

When he was small the author of this brilliant memoir, whose father was African-American, asked his Caucasian mother an important question. His mom was born an Orthodox Jew, but became a Christian. He asked, “What color is God?” She responded, “The color of water.”

And so one follows two remarkable journeys, that of the author and of his mother alternating through this beautiful work. She had been abused as a child, left home as soon as possible and was widowed consecutively by the deaths of her two African American husbands. She was left to raise twelve children, alone.

Mr. McBride has been an award winning composer and heralded author. All of his siblings have been remarkably successful.

This book in part is about the elements of humanity we all share. It’s specifically about a mother’s momentous effort to make her numerous children whole. To those who love the genre of memoir as I do, this is a read that should NOT be missed.

H. Robert Rubin, a best-selling, Amazon writer and author of Look Backward Angel, How Did I Get Through This? Please Save the Third Dance for Me (memoirs) and The Bloom is on the Rose (novelette), all available on Amazon.

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Looking Back and Looking Forward

“Everything is change; and you cannot step twice into the same river.” Mary Renault an English-born author who obtained South African citizenship.

“The world is not prepared for there to be so many old people in it. We have to fight that. I think people expect your life to shrink as you get older. They don’t want you to take up too much room.” Alison Lurie, the late American novelist, and academic who won the Pulitzer Prize for literature in 1984.

So here we are, those of us over 65. We’ve paid our dues. Many of us are fortunate enough to be retired.

We cannot buy back our youth. Ponce de Leon already tried to find it with oodles of help and failed.

We are quite different than the people we were in our twenties. There has been an enormous change on the exterior (our world) and within us. The youthful are crowding us out a bit, on occasion ignoring us.

And then, if you are quite blessed, there is the love of your life. That person is not the one you married. You are both dealing with age and all those changes.

I can only deal with that change through God’s grace. Close relationships that last for decades involve lots of forgiveness and tact.

Per Adriana Trigiani, an American novelist, “Life is a mystery to be lived, not a problem to be solved.”

Hallelujah.

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