“Great lovers have made great sacrifices.” Louis Auchincloss, a 20th-century American novelist. Sacrifices?

Last Friday, in a post-last pro match of his life interview, Roger Federer was being celebrated. When he responded about his family, he expressed appreciation that his wife Mirka allowed him to play tennis. 

Imagine a spouse traveling with two boys and two girls in her charge, all over the world, for years, and accepting his time away to improve his world-renowned tennis game. No small task, even with fine accommodations and help.

I think in most marriages that last for decades, there is much heartache. But, on balance, great love, and sacrifice. Without the hand of God, our 45-year marriage may have lasted as long as my first, 12 months.

Love Hurts, But Oh the Joy

“I think love is a huge factor in fiction and in real life. Is there a risk? Always. In fiction and in life.” “Trouble is just like love, after all; it comes in unannounced and takes over before you’ve had a chance to reconsider, or even to think.” Alice Hoffman, an American writer.

Love is a beautiful thing. It’s a gift from our Maker. It’s mysterious and powerful. Despite the risk, many of the risk-averse take on that challenge.

My love for my spouse and family is far, far thicker than blood. It’s filled to overflowing with enormous joy, but, with occasional heartbreak. The love is worth the pain that can envelop me.